Change

 

Status quo: a state of stability or equilibrium maintained by resisting change or innovation. Boring but easy, yet it can be deadly.


Human beings are naturally risk-averse. We feel more comfortable in a known environment rather than one of uncertainty, as illustrated by the saying “the devil you know”. The proverb is a perilous fallacy. As a young woman, I dealt with this situation for several years as I stayed in an abusive relationship. Fortunately, I left while I still could.

Status quo bias is a type of cognitive inertia. It is easier to keep doing the same old thing unless there is a compelling incentive to change. The danger is stagnation, being “stuck in a rut”. My life was headed for disaster. I stepped out, got a college education, then moved on to medical school.


Our world perception creates our life experience. It is not what we look at life, but how we look at it. Challenge yourself to take a deeper look at your thoughts. As a victim of abuse, I never imagined that one day I would be a trauma surgeon. But daring to think differently and make bold decisions changed my life.


Recognition of the impermanence of life frees us to embrace its evolving nature and let go of ever-changing external factors and to find meaning and joy internally. Emotions are a personal choice and under your control.


Do you find it difficult to change? I’ve made another transition post-retirement, and now I am fulfilling a lifelong desire to be an author. What would you like to change in your life?

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